Sissy A Coming of Gender Story review  eBook or Kindle ePUB

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And glitter obsessed as a child Jacob was given the label sissy In the two decades that followed sissy joined forces with gay trans nonbinary and too ueer to function to become a source of pride and today a rallying cry for a much needed gender revolution Through revisiting their childhood and calling out the stereotypes that each of us have faced Jacob invites us to rethink what we know about gender and offers a bold blueprint for a healed world one free from gender based trauma and bursting with trans inclus. Horribly written Attempts at humor fail miserably and most of the book is spent patting themselves on the back for their very very dull college lifefull transcriptions of emails they sent complaining about small instances of harassmentunwokeness at their Ivy League school not to dismiss harassment but it's very white middle class college student etc Want to read a book by a narcissist who thinks every dump they take is radical while wincing at the stilted writing style and jokes the entire time This is the book for you

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Sissy A Coming of Gender StoryIve feminismFrom Jacob's Methodist childhood and the hallowed halls of Duke University to the portrait laden parlors of the White House Sissy takes you on a gender odyssey you won't soon forget Writing with the fierce honesty wildly irreverent humor and wrenching vulnerability that have made them a media sensation Jacob shatters the long held notion that people are easily sortable into men and women Sissy guarantees that you'll never think about gender both other people's people's and your own the same way agai. I liked Sissy okay I've enjoyed it in hindsight than when I was reading it It's not that I'm not glad I read it because I am PROBABLY what bothers me is mostly that personally Jacob Tobia doesn't seem like someone I'd jive with and that personality clash bleeds into whether or not I can enjoy their writingThat's not to say they wouldn't be fun to chat with not to say they're not an important public figure not to say they haven't done amazing work Nothing like that It's that something deeply rooted in their writing doesn't work for meMaybe it's just simpler to say that Jacob Tobia seems like they're full of themself and that bothers me I don't think Tobia would even deny this In the book they literally compare themself with Jesus Christ than onceSelf love is great by the way It's important especially for ueer people But the self love turns too uickly to self indulgence in this case Like the stories in this book happened I'm sure But some impulse seems to compel Tobia to inject every story with these clearly dramatized Shonda Rhimes speeches and dramatic turns The set ups and pay offs come off as far too constructed Memoir is tricky because I understand that everyone has their own perspective on their own lives and that one's recounting of events is drastically different from another's that memory is generally a construction anyway There are a lot of very understandable reasons why one for their own mental health might remember things in a certain manner But in Sissy it comes off to me like Tobia is purposely trying to invent a narrative for themself Like Tobia isn't actually dealing with what they've gone through Rather they're presenting a positive front for public consumptionTobia mentions how their father remembers things with emotion than memory They reflect on this semi critically To their credit Tobia acknowledges that this applies to them as well But they don't do anything to reckon with the observation either It's just there It's this weird thing that Tobia does They're aware of their tendency to buy their own bullshit but don't seem to process it At least not to the extent that I'd expect someone who has written so much about themself You'd think at some point there would be a sobering confessional passage one that brings out Tobia's vulnerability shows that they're trying to figure themself out But there isn't any of that energy in Sissy It's like they're carefully constructing how they want others see them rather than laying it out for their own benefitI've come across this honest open self reckoning in other memoirs really difficult passages where the authors come to grips with their demons or at least put them out there in a constructive way Thomas Page McBee's Man Apart or Laura Jane Grace's Tranny or Kiese Laymon's How to Slowly Kill Yourself and Others in America or Darnell Moore's No Ashes in the Fire These authors of course present their writing in a readable accessible way but there's also an underlying sense of writing for their own fulfillment writing to figure out their own shit and get through it There's little of that in Tobia's book It's much about the presentation here Feels very theatricalThere's some weird racial politics going on here too Not racism I would never accuse them of that but like a getting my liberal bona fides kinda way Tobia says all the right things about colonialism and white supremacy only in a sort of peppered on posturing sort of way that doesn't go much beyond a hashtag understanding of race Tobia also freuently but slyly alludes to starting to familarize themself with their Middle Eastern heritage in a way they never elaborate upon enough Just enough to make it SEEM like they don't want to be accused of benefiting from white privilege any Maybe I'm reading into that too much but it does seem suggestive of a distancing from whiteness that no white or white passing person can give themselfThere are good parts too don't get me wrong In the end it's a worthwhile read I love the part where they're talking about wanting to dress up as Pocahontas for Halloween as a child It was a great blend of comedy snarky comments about cultural appropriation and commentary on their budding gender identity But the parts where it feels like Tobia is actually comfortable with their audience telling you things straight up reckoning with their identity and their history are too few and far between

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Sissy A Coming of Gender Story review  eBook or Kindle ePUB ê A heart wrenching eye opening and giggle inducing memoir about what it's like to grow up not sure if you're a a boy b a girl c something in between or d all of the above From the moment a doctor in Raleigh North Carolina put male on Jacob Tobia's birth certifA heart wrenching eye opening and giggle inducing memoir about what it's like to grow up not sure if you're a a boy b a girl c something in between or d all of the above From the moment a doctor in Raleigh North Carolina put male on Jacob Tobia's birth certificate everything went wrong Alongside male came many other far less neutral words words that carried expectations about who Jacob was and who Jacob should be words like masculine and aggressive and cargo shorts and SPORTSNaturally sensitive playful creative. Audiobookread by Jacob TobiaA National Best Seller“TransformativeIf Tobia aspires to the ranks of comic memoirists like David Sedaris and Mindy Kaling ‘Sissy’ succeeds” —From the New York Times Book ReviewThis audiobookmemoir was WONDERFULJacob is so darn likableIt took him years to discover that being ‘a sissy’ wasn’t something he needed to be ashamed of Rather it was a source of pride His source of pride Our source of pride with him It occurred to me while enjoying Jacob’s memoir a coming of age gender storythat with all this social distancing I’m mostly home every day by myself if not on a trail hiking choosing a fascinating memoir is intimate and fulfilling Listening to an author share ‘their’ story with us Be it Michelle Obama Gary Shteyngart David Sedaris Mary Louise Parker Roxane Gay Stormy Daniels Bruce Springsteen or Sherman Alexi to name a fewand now Jacob TobiaI’m able to get a great dose of ‘relationship connection’ fulfillmentA great memoir audiobook satisfactiontransfers intimacy effortlesslyThe authors personal stories are the next best thing to having them over for lunch I never thought I was a big ‘memoir’ book readerbut I admit — many have been tremendously enjoyable recently Memoirs people sharing are a great fit with sheltering in place Jacob is a natural storytellerwarm funny genderueer‘Sissy’ builds with humor and gustoHe lightly yet seriously underlines freedom from societal gender norm pressures Jay Duplass said“Dear men please read this book Whether you’re sensitive bold gay straight pen by creative analytical or don’t even know who the hell you are this book is a blueprint for healing our gender based trauma from the inside out It’s brilliant and important and I couldn’t put it down”You’ll fall in love with JacobYou’ll fall in love with Jacob’sgrandmother But hahawill you fall in stilettos Not me I have a bionic footHahaBut I giggled and enjoyed visualizing two men going fancy shoe shopping for themselves I wanted to tag along with Jacob and his friends buying new colorful outrageous socks would have given me a buzzI simple liked Jacob’s companySign me up for his next book